For this installment of Nine Questions- The Sexuality Edition, I got the opportunity to interview rope bondage enthusiast, Territory. Here is a bit about her from her bio:
"Territory has been involved in the local kink community since the summer of 2013 and has been playing with rope for about as long. She does kink to explore relationships with other people, intentionally playing with sensations and intensifying emotions. Her biggest kink is emotional connection. All the whips, ropes, canes and floggers are secondary to the connection between the people involved."
Territory will be teaching two introduction to rope bondage workshops at Jellywink Boutique, "Rope: Bondage. Restraint. Sensation. Connection."
"Rope is one of the most easily accessible tools for your kinky toy bag. Found at hardware stores, outdoor shops, military surplus, [local sexuality shops] anyone can get their hands on rope but it can also be one of the most intimidating toys in the bag. What knot goes where? How does that knot go again? But it's not all boy-scout knots and know-how. After a few safety concerns are addressed, we'll explore how rope can be used in all sorts of knotty and naughty or naughty and knot-less ways for bondage, restraint, sensation and connection."
The workshops are free and will be held on Sunday, May 3rd from 6:30pm-8pm and Sunday, May 17, from 6:30 to 8 pm. The first workshop is pretty much filled up, but you can RSVP for the second workshop on Facebook. (You can find all of the workshops listed here: www.Facebook.com/myJellywink).
And without further ado, here's the interview!
1) How did you get into rope bondage - so to speak?
Territory: Restraint was always one of my wank fantasies. Being restrained actually. Kind of amusing since now I'm much more into tying up other people than getting tied up myself. I've learned that I get cranky when I'm bound. One of the many differences between fantasy and reality!
But to actually get my hands on rope? It was with a previous partner. On our third or fourth date we went to a local sex shop, bought rope and a book and had an excellent evening!
2) Would you say that you've had formative experiences/relationships that have brought you to exploring the world of BDSM, or were you kinky right out of the box? Or something else?
Territory: I've always been interested in kinky activities even before I knew what kink was. Many folks experienced "homoerotic" situations in either high school or college. Well, I had "kink-o-erotic" experiences in high school. My friends and I would bite each other, tie each other up with scarves, wrestle and cuddle. None of it was explicitly sexual, hell, we did this during lunch in the courtyard at school but there was a sexual undertone for me.
Since then I've discovered more about myself and my kinks through explorations with my romantic and play partners and participating in the local kink community.
Ally: I love the word kink-o-erotic! I actually feel that some of my hottest experiences are little kink-o-erotic moments.
3) What would we find in your bedside drawer right now?
Territory: Gloves, lube, vibe, cocks, my strap-on harness and several books of erotica. My kink toys are stored on my bookcase and my rope lives in my closet.
4) Moaner, screamer, crier, silent shaker, grunter, or something else?
Territory: I like all of them! ;)
I tend to be a growler when I'm topping, a moaner and silent shaker when I bottom, and a snuggler afterwards.
5) What is something that's on your sexual bucket list that you have not gotten a chance to do yet?
Territory: Wow. I'm so not a "checklist" kind of person with sex. It may be corny but to me it's all about where my partner and I want to go together, what our checklist is. If I had to think of something, it would be to develop a sense of trust with a partner that allowed us to push the edges of physical pain and emotional vulnerability together. A mutual journey of kink exploration.
Ally: I can understand that. I'm more of a "relational" person myself. I lot of my own sexual interests and kinks are entirely based on how I vibe off the person I'm with. That also determines how submissive or dominant I get. That said, I've definitely done stuff just out of intellectual curiosity and not wanting to live out my life without having experienced it. Being fisted comes to mind. Some other stuff too.
Territory: That makes sense! In that regard, there's a lot of things with rope I still want to try out. Sadistic rope and predicament bondage being the most interesting for me at the moment.
Ally: Edgy! Not necessarily sure I'd want to be on the receiving end of that...but well, I'm a pretty impressionable person, so perhaps after your workshop I'll be seduced into pushing my boundaries of discomfort.
6) What famous historical, mythical, fictional, or famous person would you jump at the chance of having sex with?
Territory: My Firefly fandom heart would love a romp with Kaylee.
Ally: If we're sticking with Firefly as a theme, I'm with Inara Serra all the way!
7) What was the funniest or most awkward sexual experience you've had?
Territory: I do rope, so awkward is not unusual. But the funniest was probably when I fisted a lover for the first time and she got so excited she got up on her hands and feet, kind of in a downward dog position, in order to see it better. Meanwhile I was getting drug around by fist, trying to keep up with her as she wiggled around for a better view.
Ally: Those pelvic floor muscles are strong aren't they! I couldn't believe the intense grasp they had the first time I fisted someone. When she had an orgasm, I thought my hand might get crushed! I can see how you could be dragged around like that! Mirrors are handy!
8) What do you find sexually irritating or just doesn't do it for you?
Territory: Too much tongue too fast. I really enjoy teasing kisses.
Ally: Me too! I'm all about building a lot of sexual tension and just lingering there with gentle and pull away kisses. After the right build-up, though, yes give me tongue!
9) Famous last words?
Territory: Well... that was awkward.
Ally Booker is a pleasure activist. She is passionate about educating herself and others on cool sexuality related things like communication skills, creating and respecting boundaries, sexual self-determination, destigmatization, gender and sexual expressions, sex toy use and safety, and all the other mechanics of pleasure. You can often find her milling around her Tucson shop, Jellywink Boutique, 418 E. 7th St., (888) 874-6588