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Comment Archives: stories: News & Opinion: The Pleasure Activist

Re: “Pleasure Activist

As always Ms. Booker, very articulate and concise. I do miss Your colum, not to mention Your Sage advice.
Recovering from spinal surgery, but You will see me again someday,
Jim

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Posted by jimthemovieguy on 06/29/2017 at 10:17 PM

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Sorry, I just had a moment of clarity and realized that we're all human beings and that we all deserve respect. I also just realized how offensive my username is and I promise to change it once I actually have some other moments of clarity. Until then, I shall regretfully post as...

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Posted by LiberalFree2016 on 12/17/2016 at 7:47 AM

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LOL!! You're kidding me, right?

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Posted by LiberalFree2016 on 12/16/2016 at 1:16 AM

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Thanks Ally,
That was fascinating! I was wondering if that ended up creating a mental state that took you further from state of mental clarity for both parties. Something like intense masturbation, you are back to whatever state you are in a few hours. I am not sure you ever go back to where you were after a certain point in the role playing process.
I would be interested in your view or someone from Desert Dominion.
orgasimodo

Posted by orgasimodo on 12/15/2016 at 5:13 AM

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Ally, I love your insights on our language and how it affects our sexuality. I'm a straight male, and I can tell you how much my sexuality has been inhibited by trying to conform to male dominant expectations. When I was in high school, "cunt sucker" was one of the worst things you could call a boy. Later in life, I would engage in cunt sucking (can I say that instead of the medical word?) only as "foreplay", to get her turned on so she would let me fuck her. Then I met a woman who insisted that I suck her cunt "all the way", then sent me home with nothing but sore balls and a wet face. At first I felt humiliated and abused, but her orgasms had me fascinated, and I kept coming back for more. There is nothing quite like the intimacy of feeling a woman's orgasm so close. It is not just "foreplay". It is the "main dish".

Posted by jman85 on 12/05/2016 at 9:18 AM

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You'll get more power out of the plug in models but I recommend the cordless for the shower. Saying the shower itself won't do the trick.

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Posted by Yes Sir Bob on 06/30/2016 at 3:15 PM

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Workshops for saying "no" and taking "no" for an answer? What will Liberals think of next? ROTFLMAO!!!!

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Posted by LiberalFree2016 on 04/07/2016 at 2:33 PM

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Hey Ruby,
I just noticed this and thanks for the comment! I'm honored to be speaking to the queen of pegging! ;)

I did misspeak about sterilizability (sp?) of rubber blends. I want to clarify that I was definitely not talking about rubber dildos (http://www.tucsonweekly.com/tucson/pleasur…). The higher quality rubber harnesses (I'm thinking Aslan) are pthalate and bpa-free and are actually water-proof, so more easily cleanable.

As far as single (2 points) vs. double (3 points), the engineering aspect sounds on point, but many people (including myself) experience a good single strap as anchoring the dildo straight through their body toward the sacrum(ish) area and so it *feels* more stable and a bit more like a projection of the body. Maybe it's not *actually* more stable? With a good quality harness, though, the difference may be negligible. Perhaps I'll have to conduct a strap-on harness sex study on a wide range of people...for the sake of science, that is. ;)

Maybe I can consult with you for my next strap-on/pegging article?
-Ally

Posted by Ally Booker on 04/06/2016 at 6:25 PM

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Good article - thanks for writing about strap-ons! Thanks especially for talking about the different uses for men to wear one.

A couple of corrections:
"Rubber is easily wiped down and sterilized, has a great fetishy look, and is vegan."
Rubber is actually porous and does NOT sterilize well at all because of that porosity. You cannot actually sterilize it and it's always good to use a condom on the toy.

"Single-straps tend to anchor the dildo a bit more securely..."
Single strap harnesses have less stability than the double strap ones. The difference between anchoring the toy with 2 points or 3. Three is more stable.

Have a great class!

Ruby Ryder

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Posted by Ruby Ryder on 03/10/2016 at 9:09 PM

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Good info, as always.

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Posted by lc69hunter on 02/25/2016 at 5:38 AM

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Excellent commentary, Ally!

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Posted by BurntSpoon on 12/11/2015 at 8:16 AM

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Be careful or they will misquote a snipit of a scriptural passage to you...maybe about "the least amongst us."

Let's ask an expert theologian.

http://www.albertmohler.com/2004/03/25/the-bible-on-sex-the-way-to-happiness-and-holiness/

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Posted by Julie T on 11/20/2015 at 2:18 PM

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Reality - According to US govt. Statistics Transgenders make up approximately 750,000 people in the United States. There are 316 million citizens in the US. So it would make total sense to change laws, bathrooms rules, insurance benefits by the military to support .00237% of the population in our country

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Posted by Jeffrey Engelbert on 11/20/2015 at 1:07 PM

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I instruct my husband to dress in female panties and teddy I provided him. He now does so eagerly altho not at first. I act as masculine as I can, he as feminine as he can (poor imitation). Great fun with a dildo. Thanks for bringing up the subject.

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Posted by brad stroup on 11/05/2015 at 8:40 AM

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My wife used to put on a tight skirt, low-cut blouse, stockings, etc. She would come to the door selling magazines and procede to seduce my shy ass.

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Posted by CW13 on 11/03/2015 at 9:43 AM

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Thanks for the questions! I'm not sure how to reply to specific comments, so I'll just reply to them here!
Ic69hunter and Brad Stroup (since one answer may answer both your Q's):
I believe it all comes down to how a particular person identifies, rather than how and who they have sex with (I cover some of this in Part 2). For example, there are several male adult film actors who will take jobs acting in gay porn because that's where the money is for them. While some refer to this as "gay for pay", it does not necessarily mean they are gay. They just don't have any issue with having sex with other men. This also applies to lesbian adult film actresses who exclusively star in straight oriented porn. I suppose in that case it would be "straight for pay". Was Rock Hudson straight just because he kissed ladies? This extends to recreational sex, too. Sometimes it's just fun. Or sometimes certain people may vibe a different gender than they present. I guess it could get complicated if you try dissecting desire, gender, and all the rest, but it really doesn't have to be complicated because, ultimately, it's about self-identification- ideally without the need to explain and justify it to all of those around you. (Inevitably, I'll probably still end up dissecting it further in future articles!)
-Ally

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Posted by Ally Booker on 10/10/2015 at 9:29 PM

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Is this what a person does for a living after paying (or their parents paying) to get a degree in journalism?

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Posted by mrbigshotno1 on 10/10/2015 at 4:38 PM

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I love this. Thank you both for being so male and penis-friendly, and for putting on such stellar workshops!

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Posted by Heather Brewer on 10/06/2015 at 4:01 PM

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At the risk of sounding cynical, I think maybe people like to promote polarization (especially in today's online, polarization-exaggerating world) because they want drama, especially drama that makes them feel important. "Who is not for me is against me" & all that. In other words, hating on bi people for not being "real" or "consistent" isn't based on misunderstanding, but on insisting that they take a side in the speaker's pet controversy.

"..you are neither hot nor cold but lukewarm; therefore do I spew you from my mouth".

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Posted by TDB on 10/01/2015 at 11:41 AM

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Ally, I like the way you bring sexuality out into public space with such honesty and balance. Especially true re bisexuality discussion. Can a bisexual person be monogamous? Or does his/her sexuality demand both? If you are monogamous, then are you straight or gay in practice, regardless of your sexual instincts. Does this issue beg the question of what is identity?

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Posted by brad stroup on 10/01/2015 at 8:22 AM

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