This weekend Jellywink will be hosting an Intro to BDSM workshop by Master Patricia, so I thought it'd be a good idea to introduce you all. She began her public BDSM journey in Tucson, Arizona in 1999 where she is a founding member of the Desert Dominion as well as having served on the governing council including the position of President. Currently, Master Patricia is the owner of MAsT-Tucson (Master and Slaves Together), the curator of the Leather Quilt (West), and Ms. Southwest Olympus Leather 2012. She is also the producer of the Southwest person of Leather, held in Tucson's Behind Closed Doors- an alternative sexuality educational event (BCDarizona.org). But wait there's more! Master Patricia was the coordinator for the first fetish ball held in Arizona as well as four more Fetish Balls.
In honoring her fondness to teach and mentor new people in the lifestyle she has expanded her teaching to local colleges and universities throughout the Southwest region. Master Patricia has been a Butchmann's instructor since 2007 and currently is the executive director of Butchmanns Experience (butchmanns-experience.org).
"I have a passion for power sensitive relationships based on trust, defined by respect and commitment to act with accountability for one's actions and desire for mutual growth." –Master Patricia
Ally: What's your kink origin story?
Master Patricia: The first time I did something kinky was when I was 19 years old. It disturbed me that I liked doing something that went against the strict Bible teaching from my family. There were no personal computers and no way to really reach out to others. So I stuffed that experience for 12 years until kink found me here in Tucson. It was easy to find kink online but learning to sort through the myths and fantasies to what was real and truth was a different matter. I joined Desert Dominion as it was just starting as a Brick and Mortar club and dove into exploring myself. I was often told "you are not on a journey; you are on a Quest!" In 2005 I attended my first Butchmanns Experience and in 2007 I became an Instructor for Butchmanns. It became the thing that changed my life.
Ally: How did you get interested in the kink lifestyle?
MP: It took me several years to find my kink. So for many years I was like a child in the candy store, trying all the fun new things and gathering so many experiences. But the reason I continue to be fed was through my involvement with Butchmanns because my fetish is the Master/slave relationship.
Ally: How is the Master/slave dynamic different and/or the same as other forms of power exchanges in other kink/role playing scenarios such as teacher/student, doctor/patient, etc?
MP: Each Master/slave relationship is different just like all other forms of power exchange relationships. Many of them have a similar energy as Master/slave. Owner/property relationships for example. The main differences are in the head and heart of the slave vs. the submissive. A slave is surrendering their heart and life to the Master when that collar goes around the neck and that lock clicks. A submissive is just that, they are submitting and they always retain the right to take the relationship back into negotiations. A Master often looks at their slave as property and is responsible for what they own. On the Master side, Masters take on enormous amounts of responsibility, most importantly they are responsible for every order they give and if a slave acts out or behaves badly, the Master owns that too. Masters give orders to slaves, and Dominants often ask a submissive.
Ally: How would you distinguish kink, leather, and BDSM?
MP: Kink is something we do in the bedroom or dungeon and Leather is a lifestyle lived more on a daily basis. BDSM is Bondage/Discipline/Sadomasochism, it is an old on line acronym of what it is that we do.
Ally: What's your Intro to Kink workshop going to cover and why would someone want to attend?
MP: This workshop covers the basic terms used in our lifestyles and common etiquette of how to negotiate a scene. I'll bring my "Toy Bag" and talk about the fun things inside. A BDSM toy is just the starting point. It's the imagination and chemistry that brings it to life. I'll also cover basic safety and finding support for yourself as you explore all the exciting fun things this lifestyle has to offer. The take-aways will be lots of local resources, basic knowledge of our community, and lots of laughs.
Ally Booker is a pleasure activist passionate about educating herself and others on cool sexuality related things like communication skills, creating and respecting boundaries, sexual self-determination, destigmatization, gender and sexual expressions, sex toy use and safety, and all the other mechanics of pleasure. You can often find her at her Tucson shop, Jellywink Boutique, 418 E. 7th St. You